When to Stop Driving: Having the Difficult Conversation
Knowing when a parent should stop driving is hard. Learn how to assess driving safety and have this sensitive conversation.
Giving up driving represents a major loss of independence. Approaching this conversation with care is essential.
Warning Signs of Unsafe Driving
- Getting lost on familiar routes
- Dents, scrapes, or damage to the car
- Traffic tickets or warnings
- Near-misses or minor accidents
- Difficulty with turns, lane changes, or merging
- Delayed response to situations
- Confusing gas and brake pedals
- Running stop signs or red lights
When to Be Concerned
- Vision changes affecting driving
- Hearing loss
- Cognitive decline or confusion
- Medications affecting alertness
- Physical limitations (mobility, range of motion)
- Seizures or other medical conditions
Getting a Professional Assessment
- Occupational therapy driving evaluation: Comprehensive assessment
- AAA driver assessment: Confidential evaluation
- Doctor's evaluation: Can recommend restrictions
Having the Conversation
- Choose the right time (not during conflict)
- Express concern from a place of love
- Focus on safety, not ability
- Listen to their concerns
- Involve their doctor if helpful
Transportation Alternatives
- Family driving schedule
- Ride services (Uber, Lyft, GoGoGrandparent)
- Senior transportation services
- Public transit with senior discounts
- Volunteer driver programs
- Medical transportation services
The Transition
- Allow time to grieve the loss
- Help them get a state ID
- Create reliable transportation alternatives
- Consider what to do with the vehicle